Wondered if I could call on some help, many heads big better than one!

Was going to Dubaid and got covered by a wash of water on the off side, not long after followed by the engine starting to die, put foot down and nothing on the peddle, eventually picked up so didnt worry to much. Having been on a few off road runs knew to check dizzy and air filter for any water ingress and dry them if needed, no water so ok! On the way back this started to happen more often and we limped homeward. At one stage we got caught in some roadworks when it died, so I thought I would turn the ignition off and restart, all of a sudden the van came straight back to life as if nothing happend at full power

Whilst driving back worked what had happend through my head and thought it needed to be part of the ignition / injection system. The van gave up the ghost and we called the AA


After talking to Aidan, thought it was the Idle Sensor Control Unit behind the o/s taillight all made sense with what had happend and sounded like the ECU was resetting itself when the engine was turned off. Took this off cleaned it and the contacts, dried it out and refitted. Took it for a run for a couple of miles, was initially ok then it died again

Started looking at the WIKI and Bentley, did lots of the checks in intermittent 2.1, Vanagon Syndrome, Petrol engine fault diagnosis

In summary I have:
Changed the spark plugs, checked the earths, checked for air leaks, changed the Temp2 sensor, tried another ISCU, tried another AFM, tried the vanagon fix with a capacitor accross 2 & 4 on my AFM, changed the idle stabilizer for another, sprayed all the electrical points with WD40, disconnected the lambda sensor, disconnected and reconnected the ECU.
The things I have done, checked, swapped have the engine running sweet as a nut, Sharon, the wife, even said that it was running that quiet she couldnt hear the engine whilst we were out in it at all

However after running about 10 miles started to get a bit lumpy, when we slowed down on slower roads started to die, pulled over, changed the AFM........no different, changed the ISCU........ no different, sat and had a cup of tea and something to eat to let the engine cool, started and ran nearly all the way back before it happend again.......back to the drawing board.
Any ideas anyone? Does anybody have an MV ECU I could try? maybe buy if I need it?