Hi Craig. Welcome to 80-90.
The offending relay resides in the rear offside (Right hand) quarter, best accessed from the rear light aperture. Remove the rear light and you'll be able to see a number of relays. There is further access available from within the engine compartment but you will need to remove the coolant header and expansion tanks, then remove the panel carrying the intake air trunking.
The smaller black relay in the pic is the one.
If the relay is presently bridged and you still have the problem then the pump may be to blame. I have experienced some starting problems on the petrol side of mine (usually run on LPG) and traced that down to the pump. When I dismantled the pump (which involved cutting off the casing, effectively wrecking it) there was significant wear in the rollers, hence low fuel pressure. A replacement pump (after-market copy - much cheaper than Bosch) solved all the problems.
HOWEVER - whatever you do, get that bridging wire off before you lose the bus! If something goes wrong with your fuel system at present (accident or similar) it will continue pumping fuel. Combine that with a spark from somewhere and make sure you have sausages ready for the barbeque. The relay causes the fuel pump to stop as soon as the engine stops. Much safer!
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South African 1991 2.5i Microbus - now sadly rehomed to pay for a Melco EMT16X Embroidery Machine.