scottbott wrote: hopefully this is a bit more clear for everyone
Nope !!!

Let's try this from a different angle ....
Split Charge System
You can have one of two types;
A Standard Split Charge Relay.... Which uses a signal from the Alternator to trigger a relay that connects the starter battery positive terminal to the Leisure battery positive terminal.

Or there is the Intelligent Split Charge Relay .... Which uses 'intelligence' to measure the voltage at the Starter battery; when that voltage rises to a level that indicates that the starter battery is being charged by the Alternator, the Intelligent relay will trigger to connect the Starter battery to the Leisure battery.

Now - you should have one of these systems - and it should be wired exactly as per the relevant pic above;
If your split charge system (whichever one it is) is clicking when you connect/disconnect its earth (without the engine running) then the split charge system is faulty - it should only click when the engine is running (as it should only operate when the engine is running);
Maybe we can start with getting that working correctly and see what happens from there (as there seems to be several other problems i.e. fridge earths, fridge operation with headlights etc ...)